This post is a summary of our adoption and where we currently are in the process.
Last Summer, the Democratic Republic of the Congo (DRC) issued an adoption decree, making my husband and I the legal parents of a young Congolese girl. Nevertheless, we worried, along with many other parents, that there were signs of diplomatic strain in the adoption program between the U.S. and DRC. We worried that the DRC would follow a pattern of adoption program closures and suspensions over the last decade, leaving our daughter trapped in limbo.
In September of 2013, our fears were realized when DRC announced that it would detain legally adopted children until further notice.
Parents collectively took a deep breath and trusted the State Department to do its job and find a diplomatic resolution to bring our children home. We waited. And waited. And then, in a teleconference call with the State Department in March, we learned the shocking truth: 6 months after the suspension, the State Department had not even counted how many American families were impacted by the suspension. Without a headcount of these children caught in the “pipeline,” diplomatic discussions could not even begin.
We coordinated to count ourselves. We wrote letters to our members of Congress and the President, and, with the help of tens of thousands of Americans, over 100,000 letters were sent to the Capitol within just one week.
In response to our letters, 169 members of Congress signed on to a letter to the President and Prime Minister of DRC, asking them to lift the suspension. DRC officials then abruptly cancelled a scheduled trip to the U.S. to meet with adoptive families and their Congolese children, and learn about the U.S. child welfare system.
One week later, the DRC banned American parents from visiting the children we have adopted. Senators called upon Secretary Kerry to advocate for stuck American families during his May 4th visit to the DRC, which he did. A month later the DRC released 15 apparently randomly-selected children to their American families and Italy sent a plane to escort home Italian-adopted children.
Approximately 1,500 children adopted by foreigners are still being detained by the Congolese government. At least 11 of these children have died during this detention; the DRC doesn’t spend a dime on their well-being.
Congress has sent a couple more letters to President Kabila. Second Lady Dr. Biden met with him in DRC last July to advocate for our families. President Kabila visited the U.S. in August and met with Secretary Kerry again. And Special Envoy Russ Feingold visited Kabila in DRC in October. Numerous members of Congress have reached out to Kabila. Kabila invited a State Department delegation to visit him in December, only to shun them when they arrived and stonewall any progress they made.